By Andrea Miller, MA, EdS, LPC-S, RPT-S
MOTHERHOOD is one of the most difficult and rewarding jobs you will ever have. When we take time for ourselves, we are more available for our families. With a little help, moms can find ways to find the calm in the storm. Here are some tips on surviving motherhood:
*Know your stress thermometer. You have to begin to identify your stress signals and how you react to stress. This will force you to take a step back and realize that the stress of motherhood is impacting you. One way to identify stress is to tune into your body.
*Time out…for yourself! When you recognize that motherhood has consumed your life, take a break. It is vital to have time for yourself, even if you have to schedule it. Get a babysitter and have a date with yourself. The mommy guilt can often take over, but remind yourself that it will help you be a more patient mom.
*Find a play group…for adults. Find a group of other mothers to talk to and get support from. It helps to share the struggles and know that others experience similar challenges in mothering. It is also a great way to get ideas about how to handle all the challenges. Find groups online or through your pediatrician.
*Learn to say No. Saying no when you are in a caretaker role can be the most difficult task. Identify your priorities and make yourself one of them. When you have clarity of what is important, it is easier to say no. Also, remember you can’t do everything so you will probably need to scale back.
*Learn to say Yes…to Help. When friends and family offer to help, accept it. And also learn to ask for it. Asking and accepting help will allow you the time to take a break. Mothers tend to have an “I can do it all” attitude and this leads to motherhood burn out.
PARENT ONWARDS!
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